Values Based Program
Tailored Especially for You
Flexible, Personal and Discreet
Are you carrying guilt and shame about your drinking and don't want to confide in anyone around you about how bad things really are?
I understand the stakes can be high. Do you dread the day your secret gets out and your life comes crashing down around you?
I get it. That was me a few years ago, when I thought I was the only one as bad as me and that no-one would ever be able to help. I also didn't want anyone in my town to know about my 'problem' so that ruled out asking for help from my local GP or health service.
I know how hard it is to quit drinking when you live in rural Australia, where everyone knows everyone else, and their business.
So let's work together, just the two of us, so you can find freedom from alcohol too and get back to living the life you want to lead.
The approach I use with clients is science and values based, but also very simple. It's not easy personal work, but it is so worth it.
Don't waste any more time trying to quit by yourself. If that approach hasn't worked so far, it's probably not going to. This journey is much easier when you have someone in your corner. And I will be in your corner. Every day of the program if you need me to be, until you find your stride and your confidence. And nobody need know I am there.
You don't have to do this by yourself. Let's do this together. It would be my privilege to go on this journey with you.
Imagine what it would be like to:
We all think that we act with integrity. But do we when we are drinking? Are we doing the best thing for ourselves and those around us?
Straight off the bat we work on determining your values - what is really at your core - and use these values to formulate your personal plan for moving forward.
With these values in mind, we'll develop strategies to help you resolve difficulties and manage stress without turning to alcohol.
Learning to live to your values means that you can be truly authentic in the way you choose to live your life - however that looks for you.
We work our way through all the things that are driving your drinking behaviour so you no longer need to numb your emotions or drown out the noise in your head.
Living authentically is that deep inner peace that comes from being completely true to yourself. You deserve to live that way.
When most of us quit drinking alcohol after years or decades, we don't really know who we are without it.
Together we untangle alcohol from who you are, and who people perceive you to be. It's a journey of self-discovery that is exciting, but can be scary at the same time.
Using your values as your guide, start to transform your life according to how you want it to be and how you want to show up.
I've done the hard yards of quitting alcohol and now it's my absolute passion to help others who want to do the same.
Hi, I'm Noelene and I'm a certified This Naked Mind Sobriety Coach with extensive training and experience in health and wellness, mental health and behaviour change. For the last few years I've been helping rural people just like you to find the freedom from alcohol that I enjoy. So you could say I have skin in the game.
I vividly remember what it's like to be where you are now, and how desperately I wanted to quit alcohol for so many long years - it was the one thing that was getting in the way of everything I wanted in my life.
I understand rural life. I've walked my talk. I speak your language. There's no big city talk here, just good old fashioned country service and values.
Just the way we like it.
Learn how to change the way you think and feel about alcohol, so it becomes easier to change your behaviour.....
Think New Things - Feel New Things - Do New Things
This is how we do it:
Discover the truth about alcohol, why it is addictive, and what to do about cravings. Learn why alcohol marketing is so pervasive and how it's almost impossible to avoid. Build your own set of tools and tactics to handle all the ups and downs of life without having to rely on alcohol as a numbing agent. Once you understand the simple science behind alcohol and why your body is doing exactly what it is designed to do, your thinking will start to change and it will become easier to say no.
Now you have the knowledge about how alcohol affects you physically and mentally, it's time to discover how you really feel about it. Do you really like the taste? Does it really help you sleep? Does it really make you relax? Take a look at where alcohol shows up in your life and examine whether or not the thoughts and beliefs you hold are actually true. Identify the emotions you have attached to alcohol and discover how your feelings drive your behaviour, and what to do about it.
The last stage is learning how to enjoy living in your world without wanting alcohol, and taking action to move forward without shame, guilt, labels or having to put strict rules on yourself. Make your own decision about whether you want to quit drinking, cut down or take a break. It's entirely up to you. No more feeling like you are missing out, because your toolbox will be full and you are confidently building a happier, healthier life for you and your loved ones.
Here's what private coaching looks like:
1. Book a time to have a confidential chat about whether private coaching with me is right for you
I only take on 4 new private clients a month so places to work with me one on one are very limited. I want to give you the individual and focussed attention you deserve. This call is about making sure you are ready, you are committed and you genuinely want to change your drinking behaviour. I won't waste your time or your money if you are not ready to commit to the process and the work.
It's also really important that we both feel we can work together as a team as we will be working very closely over our 12 sessions together. This call is a chance for you to get to know me too, and how I work, and to ask me any questions you might have.
2. Once we decide to work together, book your regular session times in advance
The Private Coaching program is 12 sessions, and it's important to have regular weekly sessions, especially in the beginning. This sets up a good routine and habit - after all we are working towards habit change.
We will meet for 60 minutes every week either by phone or telehealth, whichever you prefer. You will have work to do between sessions and this looks different for every client, but it's usually nothing too time consuming or arduous.
Together we'll map out your own personal strategy and plan so that it suits you, your life, and your circumstances. Private coaching is very personal and specific to you.
3. Attend your weekly session and feel the shift happen
as you build up your toolbox
This is where the rubber really hits the road. Each session will centre around what is going on for you and what you want to deal with in the session. You may have an event coming up, a problem you want to work through, a concern about cravings, sleep or thoughts you are having. These sessions are led by you. I will meet you where you are at and gently guide you forward toward a positive outcome.
We loosely follow the Quit Drinking program but incorporate the tools, tactics and strategies as and when you need them. Private coaching is flexible and 100% about you and what you need. At the end of our 12 sessions you will have the tools you need to live a wonderful alcohol free life without labels, putting rules on yourself or feeling like you are missing out. It's then over to you to practise implementing them to reinforce the new thinking patterns and behaviours you have learnt.
4. Stay in touch with me between sessions by email,
as often as you need to.
I understand that life can throw curve balls at any moment, not just when we are prepared for them. While you are working with me I encourage you to stay close to me by email and lean on me if things get tough. Pick me before you pick up a drink.
I am here to keep you accountable to your own goals and plan, and to be your biggest supporter and cheer squad. I am also here to be your sounding board, as you may not have ever voiced your concerns about your drinking out loud to anyone before. I'll be with you every step of the way.
Rural Sobriety Private Coaching is flexible, personal and discreet.
I understand the lifestyle of being in the bush, in a rural community or a small town.
These are just some of the tools we will use during your sessions:
1: Building A Strong Mindset
Identify where you are in the stages of change and map out a plan for moving forward. Explore how your mind works and how The Pause can be so helpful when you are feeling stuck. Discover the power of positivity.
2: Identifying Your Personal Values
Knowing what values you truly hold is fundamental to your work in the program. Once you become clear on what these are, you'll be able to move forward effortlessly because the changes will make sense and feel right.
3: Using ACT - The Super Tactic
This is the one crucial tactic that you will need. Learn how to use it every day so it becomes second nature. Practise using the ACT Technique on the things that have been holding you back from quitting in the past.
4: Understanding The Science
Learn the science behind alcohol - it's super easy - and when you know it everything else starts to make sense. Explore how it impacts on your physical, emotional and mental health and identify ways to support your body.
5: Alcohol And Your Body
Take a look into what happens to your body when you stop drinking and how quickly healing can begin. Learn how to support the changes with good nutrition, and why getting good sleep is crucial in the early days.
6: NURTURE Your Mind, Body and Spirit
Focus on nurturing your mind, body and spirit to give it every chance of healing well. Self care is essential in recovery, so map out your individual plan for the future with these tools, tactics and lifestyle changes.
7: Navigating Tricky Emotions
Learn the truth about how alcohol impacts emotions like anxiety, sadness, anger and more. Explore strategies to navigate through tricky emotions that inevitably come up, and how to implement them in the moment.
8: Implementing Lasting Changes
The first year can be challenging, so get ahead of the game by having a strategy in place for every event or scenario. Learn how to navigate your lifestyle without alcohol and what to do when you hit a rough patch.
9: Designing Your New Life Without Alcohol
You're feeling healthier, gained the knowledge about alcohol and built a well stocked toolbox for going forward. You have a rock solid plan for navigating your future confidently and without feeling like you are missing out.
Do you know how much alcohol is really costing you?
Let's face it, drinking alcohol costs money - a lot of money. But do you know exactly how much drinking is costing you? Are you ignoring the financial cost hoping that somehow things will miraculously change? It rarely does, so why not bite the bullet and use this free calculator to crunch some numbers.
Just imagine what you could do with the money you save after quitting drinking. A holiday, a new car, house renovations, kids school fees, pay off your debt - you decide.
It's decision time. Are you ready to choose you?
Or do you choose to stay as you are and not take any action?
The choice is yours. No one can make this decision for you, and you need to be ready and willing to commit to doing the work. There's no magic formula to quitting drinking, but there's a short cut.
It's having an experienced sobriety coach in your corner, who has your back and will guide you gently through with the support, resources, tools and tactics you need to reach your goal.
I've got you and I'll be with you every step of the way.
Have more questions before you decide if Private Coaching is for you?
Why are Private Coaching places so limited?
I don't want anyone to know. Is this confidential?
I'm not sure if I am ready yet. Can I talk to you first?
I'm going away. Can I take a break between sessions?
I can't afford this. Do you offer a discount?
Do I have to quit drinking on Day 1 of the program?
This program is not intended for people with a physical dependence on alcohol, nor is it intended to be a substitute for medical or psychological treatment or evaluation. It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to incorporate any advice from this program into your life, especially if you have reached a point of physical dependence on alcohol. By participating in this program you agree to the full terms and conditions, which you can read here.